What is masculinity and why is it that it seems to be under siege?
According to Siri on my iPhone, the definition of masculinity is:
Having qualities or appearances traditionally associated with men, especially strength and aggressiveness.
I personally believe there is a lot more to it than man buns, skinny jeans, safe spaces and therapy dogs. As usual, I like to start with my faith and spirituality to see if I can find some clues or possibly a motive to why being a man and exuding strength and aggressiveness would be feared and banned from our society.
Because I am a man of faith and believe that the Bible is the living word of God, I am always weary and attentive to ways in which our enemy might be trying to attack our society and humanity as a whole.
According to John 10:10:
“The thief has come to steal, kill and destroy.”
In case you are totally unaware of the scriptures, this verse is referring to Satan. He has been trying to destroy humanity since he was cast out of heaven along with one third of the angels. You’re probably wondering “ok, what could that possibly have to do with toxic masculinity, and expunging bravado and genuine maleness altogether?” I will begin to answer that question with my favorite new quote.
“Hard times create strong men. Strong men create good times. Good times create weak men. Weak men create hard times.”
It is in the midst of these “hard times” that Satan is the most effective in his plans to steal, kill and destroy God’s most prized creations – you and me. If you analyze that quote further and believe that scripture like I do, you cannot possibly believe that Satan wants us to inhabit good times.
So… if he wants us all to fall on hard times where he can be the most effective in humanities destruction what does he need to get rid of? The answer: he must get rid of strong men or masculinity.
According to my favorite Christian author John Eldrige, men were created with a masculine heart for a reason. We were given it to fight for others, our families, our countries, our faith and our values and much more. We were given a masculine heart to be strong during the storms of life when others are weak and struggling. If you don’t understand why you would need a masculine heart to fight – period – then I will point you to another favorite quote of mine from the movie Fury with Brad Pitt:
“Ideals are peaceful, history is violent.”
Go home tonight and turn on the news or the History Channel. I guarantee you will see plenty of stories and footage that will concern you and possibly alarm you. If my theory and perspective is accurate, then Satan has done a phenomenal job at destroying much of mankind. From mass shootings and terrorism, to sex trafficking, racism and genocide to name a few there are many alarming battles raging all across the earth.
Some will say, “Why doesn’t God do something about it?” The answer – he did. He made his sons and he gave them masculine hearts to fight for humanity and against evil.
I will admit masculinity can be very toxic when it isn’t initiated properly. When it isn’t passed down by virtuous, strong patriarchs to our young men with the understanding of the responsibility that must accompany the gift is when you see the war, the school shootings, the violence, etc.
I can break this issue down in many ways, but I always prefer to go straight to the core.
Satan, like most villains, does not want opposition. Think of him like a publicist framing up anti-masculinity PR campaigns for why strength and aggressiveness are so outdated, dangerous, and so unnecessary. Then it all starts to make a little more sense. If he can convince us that it is in fact toxic, then we are in fact doomed. If I were the Prince of Darkness and my loftiest goal was to destroy as much of God’s creation as possible, then you had better believe I would do everything I could to undermined masculinity and the warriors that possess it.
Eli Crane is a Believer, Husband, Father, Navy SEAL and the CEO of Bottle Breacher. He’s a veteran advocate, brand ambassador for Sig Sauer, op-ed writer, founding member of Operation Innocence and a proud Whiskey Patriot.